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Feast brings respite from odd routines

  On an important occasion, I had the great opportunity to attend a feast arranged at a posh hotel in our famous city of Kanpur's prominent Jajmau area.  Various delicious items were arranged on the stylish table. The guests were really free to choose what they liked to consume. There was a considerable rush but not in any way uncontrollable when I entered the grand air conditioning space. Soon, the humble host emerged, and we liked to step forward for embracing each other as human decency permits us to do on such occasions. I did not lose much time sharing a light joke. I briefed him that I saw you standing from just outside, but you were out of sight the moment I entered the a bit dark hall.  He, in his usual manner, did not pause to say how a man so fat could not be viewed from quite a short distance. Thus, we laughed to the full heartily. Among various dishes, there was also the regular Biryani. How would be missed due to its wide acceptability? When it was indeed ava...

Denial of second marriage shows wordiness


I am deliberately positioning myself pretty well to write a bit in detail about a recently discussed topic centred on straight denial about second marriage in one quite popular community. "No, I do not entirely agree. In our community, there remains virtually little chance or tradition of openly or slyly entering into the practice of a second marriage," stated a yet-to-be 75-year-old man. 

However, he entirely forgot that his wife's elder brother had remarried at that time and was still living with her. Despite this remarkably factual position, he argued that his people did not follow such unacceptably detestable norms; he avoids disclosing the stark truth if it directly involves his kin.

In other ways, he looked to be preaching or discussing morals and ethics while keeping a close eye on his relatives, who had pursued the concept of a second marriage without any sort of shame. Is it not a double standard? 

People more often hide reality so blatantly when it suits them! His reaction represented a complete deviation from the well-established actuality. This very decision to have a second wedding entirely symbolises another high point for the man. He strongly faces opposition to marrying for the second time. 

It is widely said that only a minimal number of people can stick to this practice. But those who have no confidence seldom try to practice this sort of habit. What is needed is a decision. I hate to say it, but I’m not into it. And I say this as someone who has a serious aversion to such weddings, mostly due to a combination of fear and childish malcoordination.

The change may be quite abrupt, especially since everything around us becomes a constant reminder that summer comes to an abrupt end. The most visible seasonal cues in nature are fallen leaves and bad weather, while wedding-related cues are rising in earth-toned attire and other fine-looking necessities.

From the moment one announces their firm decision to conduct a second marriage, people who know them start rumours surrounding the new marriage, and it begins circulating in society. A new bride with a fresh name would not have been pointless because there would certainly be more joys. 



 


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